Why men have affairs?
Speak about a loaded theme that no one wants to speak about, this is it. Amusing thing, affairs have been going on since old ages. Affairs can be fraught with troubles, cause sorrow, and other harms. In addition you must wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and frankness issue, funds, age dissimilarity, religious upbringing, remorse, and on and on. I anticipate there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this post I should classify an affair as a long term, maybe years long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other persons, dating married men.
Why do women have affairs? There are as many answers as there are men seeking affairs. I suppose mainly though it is just the human condition, the need for love, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and loved. Here are a few reasons I have run across.
Physically we as human beings are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is enjoyable and fun, and sex makes us flee the real world for a brief period of time. This euphoria exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Someone can switch the longing on and off, some are brilliant at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and elder, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the exhilaration of the pursue. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another human being, for some it is the longing to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the whole romance thing. These desires and yearnings can be so strong they prevail over the taboos culture has erected against extra-marital affairs. For lots of people the yearnings will defeat their fears and make them risk the anger of not only their family, but the public also. So why, what is the mechanism?
Sex Addicts, maybe some of us are. Sex is awfully pleasant, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically motivated sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not hurt your relatives or anybody else? You would need to reduce the danger you are taking. If you have the feeling that a good affair is one that is advantageous to everyone, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the major group, very big in fact. There are many couples whose marriage is over, except they feel comfortable in the manner they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Then there are the children to look after. Your savings are so knotted. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to be as a family besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that stop them completing the sex act, at least not with their spouse. An extramarital affair from time to time solves the problem while keeping the marriage intact.
Ignoring, sorrowfully this is a ordinary groung I fear. One or the other, as a rule the gentleman is sexually neglecting his female for a large humber of reasons. As a man I truly am grateful to you guys neglecting your ladies and making them available to us guys of romance, making them “milf wives” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but evil.
Something is just misplaced in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Probably its romance that is missing, could be it is a shortage of love, maybe caring is disappeared, maybe it is the intimacy, could be neglect. Maybe we have just grown separately, our relulas interests diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is conflicting of what you want. Maybe I just do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that sensation that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The first reason people give is, they search for the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to escape, for economic gain, for payback and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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